Ending Blame and Defensiveness in Relationships
(How to Have the Shortest Argument ever)
“We always fight over the dumbest little things”“I don’t even remember how it started”“My husband blames me for everything”“My wife blames me for everything that goes wrong”
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Blame should not be placed in any of the above baskets. Learn how to end blame and defensiveness.
Introduction to Blame and Defensiveness
Definition of Blame
Definition of Defensiveness
What you need to know about blame and defensiveness
Steps to address blame and defensiveness.
1. Try a Preamble to reduce defensiveness:
2. Deliver a short explanation of The Issue:
3. Try to END IT THERE!Expect no response. Leave. Give your partner time to absorb it. Get in the habit of ending the delivery right there so defensives can’t creep in. If they get defensive, try:
4. The Time to EXPLAIN is LATER!
About the Author – Ending Blame and Defensiveness
Further listening – songs about blame.
Further reading - more quotes on blame.
A good leader takes a little more than his share of the blame, a little less than his share of the credit.Arnold H. Glasow
Too often in life, something happens and we blame other people for us not being happy or satisfied or fulfilled. So the point is, we all have choices, and we make the choice to accept people or situations or to not accept situations.Tom Brady
A man can fail many times, but he isn't a failure until he begins to blame somebody else.John Burroughs
I think it's very important that you make your own decision about what you are. Therefore you're responsible for your actions, so you don't blame other people.Prince William