Fear conflict? Stop avoiding confrontation and conflict.
Do you fear conflict? You might ask yourself, Why do I avoid conflict? Why do men avoid confrontation? Why do women avoid confrontation?
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Mediate2go: Fear conflict? Stop avoiding confrontation and conflict.
Conflict Avoidance Introduction
You might ask how to avoid conflicts in a relationship.
Definition of conflict avoidance.
What does avoidance mean?
How does one typically approach-avoidance conflict? How to avoid confrontation?
Why does avoidance in relationships matter?
Why do I avoid conflict?
When is conflict avoidance good?
Safety concerns? – better to avoid conflict
Temporary delay – better to avoid conflict
No gain? – better to avoid conflict
When is conflict avoidance bad?
Examples of Conflict Avoidance at Work:
Manager’s conflict avoidance
Employee’s conflict avoidance
Examples of conflict avoidance at home
Conflict avoidance with parents or partners
Conflict avoidance at home with children
Conflict resolution strategies - Conflict avoidance
Responding to conflict avoidance
- Tell the person that you would like to have a discussion with them to resolve your issues. Reassure them that you are open to hearing what they have to say.
- Tell them what you imagine they went through as a result of the situation. This demonstration of empathy might help them see that you are making an effort to connect with them and that you are trying to meet them halfway.
- Emphasize the benefits of resolving your conflict collaboratively. Say your relationship has become very destructive, even if you are no longer able to be friends, maybe you could still find someway to peacefully coexist.
- Remember that you cannot change anyone. Once you have tried to address the conflict, you will need to learn how to move on and let it go. This can be the hardest part of responding to conflict avoidance. Be sure to learn about personal boundaries and resolving conflict with boundaries if you are uncomfortable.
Conflict avoidance for professionals (Mediators, Conflict Coaches, Facilitators, Lawyers)
Responding to conflict avoidance as a mediator or conflict coach
With an avoiding client
Lawyers helping clients with conflict avoidance
An activity to help a client through conflict avoidance
With an assertive and non-avoiding client
With avoiding client(s) in the mediation room:
- First, consider integrating something about the benefits of conflicts within your opening statement and throughout the mediation process.
- Second, remind clients that conflict can be very healthy, cathartic and can lead to many positive outcomes. In fact, conflict can actually be good for business.
- Third, if the client makes a strong yet respectful statement, ask the other party to paraphrase what they heard. Next, ask for a response from the other party on how they felt in this situation. In other words, do not encourage conflict avoidance in the mediation room. Instead, provide an example of how to face conflict collaboratively. With time, you can set the mood in mediation to help the parties address their issues without avoiding them. The mediator in this case acts as a model through their practice, showing parties that it is okay to have conflict.