Challenges of Mediation
Biggest challenges (and solutions) for a mediator. Read this blog for tips. If you have other challenges or solutions, be sure to comment below.
We asked mediators about their biggest challenges. This is what they told us. Read our tips to address each of these challenges. Also, watch this video to address many of these challenges of mediation.
1. Finding clients
It’s not easy, but finding clients takes a multifaceted
approach.
2. Hard-headed clients and lawyers
Remind clients that mediation is voluntary, and that they
are completely responsible for resolving the issues, with your help. Even if
you need to terminate a process, remind them that they are welcome to come back
and try again. Before mediation, try conflict coaching as well, and teaching self-leadership.
As we mention in the next section, try building
trust with clients.
3. Clients who do not want help
Maybe your client is filled with anger
or a desire for revenge.
Take time to define trust
and build
trust with clients. With a good relationship with your client, and also
some coaching services, you
are more likely to have success with clients not wanting help.
4. Unsure of what to say next
It is okay to not have the answer. Leave time for silence in
the process. Sometimes you can ask the parties what they think in the moment if
you don’t know what to say. It is their
process. Also, you can say, you don’t know, if you don’t have the answer, or openly
reflect with the clients about something you said, and correct yourself then. With
time, you will build
your confidence.
5. Staying neutral
A major ethical issue in mediation services is how to stay
neutral. This will require much more reflection within yourself and with other
colleagues, but have a constant running dialogue in your mind of what you feel,
and what the client wants, and whether you are too ‘involved’. Ask colleagues
for help. Neutrality isn’t as easy as we think, we bring in our humanity and
past with us, but the key is caring for the client, and being as open-minded
and non-judgmental as possible with their personality and what they want.
6. Investment in the process and not the end result
This relates to neutrality – how to stay energized and
invested while letting
go of what the end result will be for clients. As mediators, we must care
for each of our clients and do our best to ensure the process is fair. At the
same time, the client is responsible to make the right decision. While you must
ensure the client has the capacity and the resources to do so, you must remind
yourself of your role to facilitate the process. Be sure to help the client and
ask for advice if need be, to ensure you strike the right balance of investing
and letting
go.
7. Making money
This is a hard one, as mediators must make enough funds to
have a viable practice, yet they must also put their client’s needs first. Once
you have ensured that the client’s interests are met, money comes into the
scenario. We recommend chatting with other mediators that have successful
practices, and also people you know with successful businesses on what works
for them. They can give you tips. Also read our blogs specific to your mediation services business:
how to become
a successful mediator, mediation jobs, and best
business ideas for mediators.
8. Convincing people that mediation is the best solution
Clients need to be aware that mediation is not always the
best option. There are benefits
to mediation, but sometimes, formal processes like arbitration
are better. Share all of these blogs with clients and ensure that the client
makes the right decision for themselves. Still, promote mediation in your
community and lecture
at schools and colleges to promote the field overall.
9. Getting feedback from other mediators
Most mediator’s work on their own. Instead of feeling alone,
join one of our partner associations like ACR, SCMA, NYSDRA,
ADR Canada or ADFP in order to network and chat
with mediators about your most challenging cases and what they would have done.
10. Trying to become a mediator
It can take years to build a practice.