Top 10 Songs about Conflict - 2015
This blog is part of our series of top
conflict songs. See the Top
10 Conflict Songs of 2014.
1. Hello - Adele
A song about reconciliation and when fights go bad.
A past conflict has resulted in a separation,
but during this song she is trying to resolve
this conflict. The fact that she has taken the first step in reconciling
the relationship is admirable, however there are ulterior motives behind
this reconnection, which could create extra conflict and avoidance
down the line. When rebuilding
a relationship, honesty is always the best policy. You can’t build an
honest relationship out of lies (also see tips on coping
with divorce).
2. Elastic Heart - Sia
A song about destructive relationships and moving on.
This song deals with a relationship that did not work, even though they may have tried mediation and other means to repair the relationship. However, no methods worked, and she feels destroyed by the experience. The truth is, you can try to repair a relationship or situation all you want, even partake in mediation, but sometimes it simply does not work. However, it is a method that often has positive results (benefits of mediation), so it is still worth partaking in the practice.
This song deals with a relationship that did not work, even though they may have tried mediation and other means to repair the relationship. However, no methods worked, and she feels destroyed by the experience. The truth is, you can try to repair a relationship or situation all you want, even partake in mediation, but sometimes it simply does not work. However, it is a method that often has positive results (benefits of mediation), so it is still worth partaking in the practice.
3. Dear Future Husband - Meghan Trainor
This song is about being open to resolve conflict.
In order to avoid
any sort of conflict in her relationships resulting in separation
or avoidance, she has created a set of conditions and rules, which she lays out
in the song to any future lover. In theory, this may seem like an intelligent
idea, however strict rules often lead to rebellion. Open
discussion is always a wise option in terms of mediation, given that intense
rules could lead to restricting yourself from opportunities (also see conflict
resolution styles).
4. Love Yourself (Justin Bieber)
This song is about dealing with rejection and moving on.
This song involves a self-obsessed
ex-partner that’s causing conflict simply for the attention of the singer. He
is trying to avoid
any sort of confrontation with this person, however in this song, he
addresses it by completely dismissing and distancing himself from said
conflict. This song reflects a realistic and aggregable option towards
conflict, do not involve yourself.
5. Bloodstream - Ed Sheeran
This song is about internal conflict and empathy.
This song involves a man who has created conflict, resulting in people’s active avoidance. He has done this because of conflicts within himself, and this song is his realization of his mistake, too late for reconciliation. In cases such as these, you would need to keep in mind its never too late to attempt reconciliation, through mediation. If you were one of those whom avoided, it’s about being empathetic and compromising while your friend is going through a tough phase.
This song involves a man who has created conflict, resulting in people’s active avoidance. He has done this because of conflicts within himself, and this song is his realization of his mistake, too late for reconciliation. In cases such as these, you would need to keep in mind its never too late to attempt reconciliation, through mediation. If you were one of those whom avoided, it’s about being empathetic and compromising while your friend is going through a tough phase.
6. Suffer In Peace - Tyler Farr
This song is about avoidance.
This is about a man who has compromised to make somebody else happy, but he has simultaneously compromised himself by doing this. Avoidance is a dream for him, he is unhappy and looking back, wishes that he had done something different. In this case, mediation or taking a step back could be a more realistic option. The point of compromise is to reach a midpoint that makes both parties happy, otherwise what is the point. Collaboration might be even better, where both parties are said to find a win-win solution.
This is about a man who has compromised to make somebody else happy, but he has simultaneously compromised himself by doing this. Avoidance is a dream for him, he is unhappy and looking back, wishes that he had done something different. In this case, mediation or taking a step back could be a more realistic option. The point of compromise is to reach a midpoint that makes both parties happy, otherwise what is the point. Collaboration might be even better, where both parties are said to find a win-win solution.
7. Don’t Wanna Fight (Alabama Shakes)
This song is about finding resolution, taking into account all of your needs and interests.
The inspiration behind this song was about
the bands earlier struggles, finding a balance between their full-time jobs
and their band practices. This is a very real issue in the workplace,
finding a balance between hobbies, having a good time and work. If there are
issues, you shouldn’t be put out by approaching your employer/manager
to discuss your feeling and options (also known as a form of negotiation).
You also need to compromise within yourself, enjoying yourself but at the same
time being realistic financially.
8. Ghost Town - Adam Lambert
This song is about change and trust.
This song is about the changes happening within society and especially Hollywood. He is trying to fight against the change but feels alone in the struggle. This conflict is not between two people, but between a person and society. Society will change inevitably. The options are either to avoid the situation altogether, remain conflicted or accept the change. Sometimes, trusting that the situation will change is the most difficult. Each of these options have their own advantages and disadvantages. Learn more about conflict escalation and resolution.
This song is about the changes happening within society and especially Hollywood. He is trying to fight against the change but feels alone in the struggle. This conflict is not between two people, but between a person and society. Society will change inevitably. The options are either to avoid the situation altogether, remain conflicted or accept the change. Sometimes, trusting that the situation will change is the most difficult. Each of these options have their own advantages and disadvantages. Learn more about conflict escalation and resolution.
9. Secret Love Song (Little Mix)
This song is about honesty and compromise.
The song is about a relationship that is being kept a secret, due to it being looked down upon by society. This song has strong LGBTQIA links, as mentioned by Little Mix themselves. This song is a duet also starring Jason Derulo (in some versions), and as the song gets to the bridge, they are having an argument about whether to be honest or keep the relationship a secret (see our blog, Should I stay or should I go?). In a situation such as this, a compromise seems to have already been reached, with one of the parties unhappy with the arrangement. This song seems to be a crossroads between being open, and the situation turning to one of avoidance instead of romance. Also see our blog on cheating in relationships - advice on adultery, which also deals with secrets.
The song is about a relationship that is being kept a secret, due to it being looked down upon by society. This song has strong LGBTQIA links, as mentioned by Little Mix themselves. This song is a duet also starring Jason Derulo (in some versions), and as the song gets to the bridge, they are having an argument about whether to be honest or keep the relationship a secret (see our blog, Should I stay or should I go?). In a situation such as this, a compromise seems to have already been reached, with one of the parties unhappy with the arrangement. This song seems to be a crossroads between being open, and the situation turning to one of avoidance instead of romance. Also see our blog on cheating in relationships - advice on adultery, which also deals with secrets.
10. B**** Better Have My Money - Rhianna
This song is about confidence in conflict.
This may seem like an odd choice for some, but this song is the perfect example of somebody who does not compromise, apologize or avoid conflict. This woman believes she is correct and strong and refuses to be told different. This type of personality is not ideal for mediators; however, we have to deal with all personalities and you will run into people of this temperament. The trick is to make the outspoken party feel in control.
This may seem like an odd choice for some, but this song is the perfect example of somebody who does not compromise, apologize or avoid conflict. This woman believes she is correct and strong and refuses to be told different. This type of personality is not ideal for mediators; however, we have to deal with all personalities and you will run into people of this temperament. The trick is to make the outspoken party feel in control.
